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When Steve (name changed and permission given to blog on him) started his sex life coaching Talk Sessions, he’d not had sex for over four years and had just finished divorce proceedings. He said his lack of sexual capability was a contributing factor to their divorce. He was demoralized, but full of hope that he’d … Read more

Everyone knows monogamy’s weaknesses: same partner, no other partners to experience sex with, the loss of enjoying the unique little strengths that given lovers will have in bed for you or when you do things to them. However, it’s very helpful to be aware of monogamy’s strengths. Ones that are under-utilized by most. The first … Read more

No one talks about it. It makes an ego sting when what one does well in bed fails. Blame is placed on the other person when much better responses exist. Here are some tips for dealing with this before deciding to break it off too soon. 1. Communicate. Talk with your partner to get more … Read more

I went to a wedding of one of my girlfriend’s oldest friends this past weekend. The minister gave some advice to the couple and those assembled on how to sustain a romantic relationship borrowing from the perspective of Fred Nietzsche. The advice sounded remarkably like the things I say and do with my sex life coaching: … Read more

It came out in print last Sunday and here is the New York Post Sex Issue article on me online. Read on to get some behind-the-scenes, comments, and clarifications. The writer I worked with, Dana Schuster, wanted to interview as many of my Talk Session and Guided Session clients as possible, which was arranged. I … Read more

My girlfriend and I went to a wedding this past weekend and decided to bring four of our favorite sex toys with us. Two were vibes shaped innocuously. One was a dil with an obvious phallic shape. The fourth was a glass design that defies brief description. Which is why it’s pictured at left. Read … Read more

Many have heard about the “Fifty Shades of Grey” series of fiction books which is a trilogy of developed romantic storyline plus erotica. What I’ve been reading in most erotica over the years are sex descriptions of orgasm that are more fiction than fact. Principally, causes of a woman’s orgasm that reinforces very unrealistic expectations … Read more

Below are the two testimonials from a married couple who are clients of mine. They found me from my GQ Magazine profile and signed up for a four-pack  of Talk Sessions and one Guided Session. See what they thought after completing three of their Talk Sessions via Skype and their Guided one. First, the testimonial … Read more

As a sex life coach, I hear a particular question fairly often: “How do I get him to initiate sex more often? I feel like I’m always the one who gets things started.” Some of the reasons why he may be doing this can combo together to make him even less likely to charge forward. … Read more

Recently I was reminded of one of the most important mindful-based skills in good kissing: not letting your saliva overwhelm your partner. This is particularly common in men because often with visual sexual attraction and turn on to a hot female body or face, he starts salivating. There are moments when this is okay, but … Read more